Beautiful Boundaries Cards

You said yes again. Then you apologised for something that wasn't your fault, and explained a no that needed no explaining. If boundaries are hard for you, the words in your head at that moment matter.

This set gives you twenty-five to use instead. They are short statements about saying no, about other people's reactions, and about your own feelings, including anger.

What's inside

• 25 affirmations, one per card
• On saying no: "'Because I don't want to' is a perfectly valid reason for saying no"
• On reactions: "I understand that sometimes people will get mad at me for setting a boundary and that's OK"
• On over-explaining: "There is no need to over explain my boundaries or why I choose to say no"
• On helping: "I can help people overcome difficulty without absorbing their pain or taking away responsibility from them"

The anger card is the one I'd point people to. It says anger is allowed, and that if you notice it early you can express it assertively rather than aggressively.

The limit: these are words to steady yourself, not a method for setting a boundary. There are no scripts or exercises. A couple of cards are blunt, calling boundaries kryptonite to toxic people and narcissists, and that framing won't suit every situation, least of all one with a colleague you have to keep working with.

PDF, instant download, and yours to use as often as you like. If it doesn't help, email me within seven days and I'll refund you.